Truth be told

Howdy yall! 😉


I hope wherever you are, Spring has sprung! Here in New Hampshire, things are melting slowly and steadily. The robins are singing, the grass can now be seen (even though it’s not green yet), and my ducks are thrilled to have worms, dirt and their pool back. 🙂

Some time back, I told you I’d share why I didn’t write for a while, a long while. There are many reasons I was unable to write, and there was also a reason I chose not to write. Truth be told, I was embarrassed to share with you what was going on. I know I shouldn’t be, but I was. As a Certified Health Coach, I want to encourage you. I want to share with you so you can avoid the mistakes I’ve made. I want you to trust me and know that while I’m not a doctor, I might be able to help you in some way. The way I was feeling on some days (physically), the negative self talk pattern I fell into, and the guilt for both of those,…..well, I lost my perspective.

know I’m not perfect. I know YOU know I’m not perfect. I know, life is a journey, NOT a destination. Yet, I lost my perspective.

For now, I will share what I learned in the last year or so, and a little bit about what has evolved in our home, I can expand later.


My favorite highlights were that we hosted our oldest daughter’s bridal shower (our first daughter, child for that matter, to begin this part of their life’s journey).  Then, shortly after, we were attending and celebrating this same daughter’s college graduation! Then, we were blessed with welcoming our new son (in-law) into our family.   Woohoo! I cannot express the bursts of overwhelming joy and blessings we experienced in that whirlwind of a week. Yes, in one week we celebrated her graduation and hosted her wedding ….. in two different states!  We got to see family members that we had not seen in years! We gained a son! We watched and experienced God’s blessings as He joined two families together as one and created a new family as they said their vows.  Oh how my heart melts just thinking back to those moments. *sigh*

However, as life goes, there were also some “not-so-fun” moments in the last year or so.  I was officially diagnosed with Sjogren’s syndrome, secondary to Lupus. Booooo!  Our then 15-year-old daughter, who has been eating a gluten-free diet for a few years now but was still experiencing some disturbing symptoms, was found to have several food sensitivities/intolerances.  Because being 15 isn’t challenging enough, we’ve had to remove corn, soy, dairy, and eggs from her diet. Again, boooooo! Definitely not fun, and definitely a challenge. But, we took it head on! 😉

Now, big question! “What did I learn through all of this?” Answer, “A LOT”! I mean, how could I go through all of that and not learn anything?!

While you may not be able to identify with my season of life right now, having a child get married, you might be able to identify with something else that I’ve experienced. Do you or someone you live with have food allergies, sensitivities or intolerances? Do you or someone you know have an autoimmune disorder? Do you ever get overwhelmed? Do you sometimes need someone to just come alongside you and tell you that everything is okay? Who doesn’t?

The reality is that you and I are all on our own journeys, but we can all benefit and learn from each other.

As we experienced our highs and our lows in all of this, I was reminded of one thing, over and over.


It’s all how we look at things.

I can choose to focus on all of the challenges we experienced, my surgery, the stress that came with it all……..




I can choose to focus on all of the blessings that have come from learning to wait, learning how to plan a bridal shower and wedding, learning how to cook for someone who has food issues, learning what resources are available to both me, and you!

What are you facing today? What are you focusing on? What can you learn from my experiences and/or yours?

I will now fill my mug with something warm and comforting, I will get comfortable, and I will pray that whatever you’re going through, you will share it with others. Share your burdens.  Share your joys. Sharing your experiences with others can help you gain perspective. Sharing your experiences might help someone else and even bless you in the process!

Keepin’ it real,

Elena  🙂

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